Is Worthiness Getting In Your Way?
The only thing that will stand in the way of creating the life you crave is your own sense of unworthiness, so let’s go ahead and move past that.
You will face doubts and resistance hides around every corner. Whether you're wondering if you are “entrepreneur material” or deserving of creating a life that truly engages you, you'll find yourself searching for the courage to begin and wondering whether or not you're worthy of the start. Let's break down the five myths of worthiness.
MYTH #1: WORTHINESS IS EARNED.
It’s easy to believe that worthiness is something that is granted to us, like a reward or recognition for working hard or “being” good. But that in and of itself would imply a state of not being worthy that precedes it – and that state simply does not exist. Worthiness is not an accomplishment or an achievement; it is within us at every moment, ready and available to breathe it in.
MYTH #2: WORTHINESS IS FOR OTHERS.
Worthiness is for you. AND worthiness is for others; including others is what distinguishes worthiness from entitlement. You are worthy of a business doing work that fulfills you. And so is anyone else who desires to make this option a reality in their lives. As you embark on this journey, begin to look for all the ways you extend worthiness to others, but not yourself. Can you find just one area in which to embrace your own sense of worthiness starting today when it comes to your business dreams?
MYTH #3: WORTHINESS CAN BE COMPARTMENTALIZED.
Once you begin to consider yourself at least as worthy as the next person in one area of your life, like seeking your big business dream, be prepared to see it showing up in other places as well. Like the snowball affect, a tiny sense of worthiness will expand. You may be surprised when you see it!
Yes, worthiness grows. It seeps into the other areas of your life without you even noticing until you hear words coming from your mouth that surprise you or you take an action that defies your expected response.
MYTH #4: WORTHINESS APPLIES TO SUFFERING.
We all do it: comparative suffering. We hold our sorrows and hardships close because we know that it could be worse. We know that our blessings outnumber those of so many others in the world. But this idea that we are somehow not worthy of our suffering holds us back. It keeps us from being compassionate with ourselves and seeking empathy from others. It stifles our efforts to better our lives or search for fulfillment as you remind yourself that what you have already would be enough – for someone else.
You are worthy of your suffering. Suffering cannot be quantified or compared regardless of its source. So, allow it, share it, heal it, hear it and know that you are worthy of making it better – even if what you have already would be enough for everyone else in the whole world. In what way are you holding back because of comparative suffering? Make a list of all the things you would create in your life if you no longer compared it to anyone else’s.
“Self-worth comes from one thing - thinking that you are worthy.”
— WAYNE DYER
MYTH #5: WORTHINESS IS HARD TO FIND.
“They” say love is a choice. I say worthiness is a decision.
It’s that simple: decide. That’s all you have to do. There’s no exam to study for, no assignment to work really hard to accomplish, no hoops to jump through, no striving to be a better person or to get your life together first. You will be amazed at how fast and with what ease your life comes together when you decide you are worthy of it.
Worthiness is not exclusive. It does not care who you are or where you come from. It is not yours upon condition or your ability to behave in the “right” way. Its only requirement is that in acknowledging your own worthiness, you continue to extend it to others as well.
What would happen if you just decided that in spite of all that you could have done better, you are – in fact – worthy of happiness, of health, of creative endeavors, of fulfillment, of friendship, of love, of joy and whatever else it is you’ve been dreaming of, including your own business?